A year ago you could not have convinced me to get my tubes tied. No, Seriously, it’s never crossed my mind before, ever. Honestly, it took me getting pregnant with my fourth child to make such a huge decision. It wasn’t the spare of the moment either at all. For months I prayed about it and did my own personal research. I had a lot of personal things going on in my life around this time.
Here are some things I took into consideration during this process. Was it really something I wanted in the first place. Here I am 30 years old and 4 kids within a 7-year span. I love my kids dearly but it definitely gets rough sometimes. It seemed like every time I got ready to uplift myself I was pregnant. Yes, there are many contraceptives to avoid this but I was with someone who I believed was my soulmate.
He was very supportive every step of the way. My age and the circumstances at the time I wasn’t ready to make that decision. The previous year my significant other kept bringing up the idea but I refused!!!
A couple months into my pregnancy I started to have a change of heart. I was unsure if I wanted to try any birth control due to various side effects. I understand many people have different outcomes but I was very skeptical. I ended up going in for a routine visit and the doctor and I had a serious conversation. I was curious about the tubal ligation and asked a million questions regarding the process. She was very honest and clear about everything and gave me 30 days to come up with a permanent decision. The docter also looks at how many children you have,age, and history to give advice reguarding, if its a good decision for you. They say, woman tend to have 2nd thoughts afterwards.
The simple fact that I have 4, the decision became a no-brainer. I’m not gonna lie, I was always hung up on the fact. Maybe down the line, I’ll meet a charming man who actually wanted a marriage and maybe a child. I wanted to be able to give such a precious gift to him. Why, should I be the one to make such an impact on my body. I compared my situation to others and that’s the worse thing you can do.
Everyone circumstances are very much different. People will not always be as honest as you assume. I decided in 2018, I’m becoming completely candid. So after much thought, I ended up proceeding with the surgery 30 days after giving birth. Which was crazy, should have signed papers before so I could do it right after delivery. There was no turning back because I was ready to get it done. Now, many people tried to change my mind but I was just over being pregnant every two years.
When I woke up for surgery that morning, I was so scared. It definitely didn’t hit me until I was wheeled into the surgery room. A sense of fear and sadness started to set in, I continued to wipe my eyes and take a deep breath. After all, I have been through this past couple of years. I knew this was something I needed to do. Not just for myself, but to focus on the children I already have at this moment.
They proceeded to strap me down and administer the anesthesia. I didn’t even realize I was drifting into a deep sleep until I woke up in the recovery room. I was shivering for some reason. I overheard the nurse say she shivering pretty bad. I realized that was a part of the effects of the anesthesia. I felt like I was suffocating with the air mask on, I couldn’t wait to become stable again.
For a couple of hours I couldn’t really eat anything but crackers and ginger ale, which just wasn’t enough food. I can’t lie the best part was seeing my support team, Kids Father. He was there every step of the way even though we were going through rocky times. He knew I was starving and made sure he fed me anything I desired. I will always be appreciative of his support.
Anyone who considering tubal ligation an option. The recovery for me wasn’t too bad actually. You know, different people have various experiences after surgery. I looked up tons of google searches for surgery and recovery. I couldn’t find much about those topics so I wanted to share my personal twist on it. The doctor went through my belly button and you can’t even tell I had surgery.
I absolutely don’t regret my tubal ligation at this point. It’s been 8 months and my body feels great. I haven’t really noticed a huge change in my menstrual cycles. I would recommend this procedure to any woman who is sure she doesn’t want any more children. Make this decision on your terms and no one else.